The Essential Role of Full Therapeutic Disclosure in Healing from Betrayal Trauma.
As a therapist specializing in treating betrayal trauma following the discovery of infidelity, I often encounter individuals grappling with the aftermath of shattered trust and emotional upheaval. One crucial aspect of the healing journey that I emphasize with my clients is the necessity of a full therapeutic disclosure. While it may be tempting to believe that having your partner simply tell you what they have done is enough to heal, the reality is far more complex.
Firstly, let's understand what a full therapeutic disclosure entails. It goes beyond a mere confession of actions; it involves a comprehensive and transparent account of the infidelity, including details about the extent of the betrayal, the timeline of events, and the reasons behind the actions. This level of disclosure is essential because it helps the betrayed individual gain a deeper understanding of what occurred, allowing them to process their emotions and make informed decisions about the future of the relationship.
One of the primary reasons why a full therapeutic disclosure is a necessity lies in the nature of betrayal trauma itself. Betrayal trauma is not just about the actions that were taken; it's about the breach of trust, the emotional impact, and the profound sense of loss and betrayal experienced by the individual. Without a thorough disclosure, the betrayed individual may be left with unanswered questions, doubts, and uncertainties, hindering their ability to heal and rebuild trust.
Moreover, a full therapeutic disclosure creates a foundation of honesty and transparency essential for rebuilding trust in the relationship. It demonstrates a commitment from the betraying partner to take responsibility for their actions, be accountable, and work towards rebuilding trust. This process is not about assigning blame or guilt but rather about fostering open communication, empathy, and understanding.
Furthermore, healing from betrayal trauma involves addressing not just the actions themselves but also the underlying issues and dynamics within the relationship that contributed to the betrayal. A full disclosure allows both partners to explore these deeper issues, work through emotions such as anger, grief, and shame, and develop strategies for moving forward in a healthier and more fulfilling way.
While having your partner tell you what they have done is a step towards healing, it is not sufficient on its own. A full therapeutic disclosure is a necessary and vital part of the healing journey, providing the foundation for understanding, communication, and rebuilding trust essential for healing from betrayal trauma and creating a stronger, more resilient relationship.
About the Author
Kathryn Fayle is a Licensed Professional Counselor, National Board Certified Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Professional Coach, and Speciality Trained Couple’s Therapist who provides in-person and virtual therapy services in Texas. She is trained in multiple modalities of trauma-focused healing to best support both couples and individuals in reconnecting to themselves and their relationships.
